As many of you know, I love top ten lists. Who doesn’t? They’re quick, to the point and it’s great to get the summary of a perspective in ten bullets. Making your own top ten lists about just about anything call really help to prioritize your thoughts. I have decided that all this week I will be making top ten lists on a variety of subjects from happiness to love to being beach and bikini ready! Keep in mind, these are completely subjective lists entirely comprised of my own personal opinions and priorities and they may be different from your own, but in case you would like my opinion on any of these topics, well now you’ll have them. Making top ten lists is a great way to visualize what is important to you. Expressing your priorities will always help in actualizing them. So, please, enjoy the ones I will be making for you this week, but by all means take time to make your own.
Today let’s take a peek at the soul with my top ten list of how to find happiness:
- Find your purpose: We were all put on this planet for a reason. We all have individual skills that we excel in. Too often we concentrate on what we cannot do, or our limits. To find your purpose pay no attention to your limitations and focus only on what you do well. Everyone is the best at a very specific thing. Find that thing and do it! Plus, if you ignore what you see as your limitations you might just find that they start to disappear.
- Have Faith! Spend time reading the Bible. Believe that God has a plan for you in mind. The daily struggles and difficulties will seem less consequential if you look at them as all being stones in the path God has made for you.
- Avoid negativity: This is a sensitive subject and I know it, but I do believe that in order to be ultimately happy you need to remove negativity from your life in the forms of situations and people. This is not to say that if a is struggling with something heavy that you should avoid them. I simply mean that we should steer clear of the people in our lives who choose negativity as a way of life. We should avoid the places and social situations that breed negative energy. If you have friends who are hurting, however, bring positivity, hope and strength to them.
- Be Grateful: Count your blessings! That’s right. Focus less on what you want and more on what you have. Everyone has so many things to be grateful for. Life itself is a gift and every day is a reason to rejoice. Look around you at family, friends and experiences and you will find so much to be thankful for. Try to write down, or at least count off five or ten things to be grateful for every night before bed, and look at that list or remember them in the morning!
- Exercise: In other words- dance as much as you can! It is true that exercise makes us happier people and I can think of no exercise that makes me quite so happy as dancing. Go out dancing with friends or your partner. Blast the music and dance at home in your kitchen while you’re cleaning or cooking. Dance down the aisle at the grocery store if you hear a good song! Find time to exercise daily, and find time to dance.
- Spend time with the people you love: So often we spread ourselves too thin only to realize at the end of the week or month that we didn’t have any quality time with our closest friends or family. Make sure to include your loved ones in your life as often as possible. Be sure to make time just to be around them.
- Give! Be as generous as possible. I cannot stress enough how much more satisfaction can come from generosity than from selfishness. It is truly more blessed to give than to receive. Whatever you can and whenever you can give out.
- Avoid the news! No, don’t choose to be ignorant, rather gather information from a quality, reliable source once or twice a week and walk away. Read the Sunday paper, but don’t have the news on in the background while you’re doing chores! The news (particularly radio and television news) is written in a way that alarms and frightens. It repeats itself too, which can really drum negativity into your brain.
- Keep uplifting music on throughout the day. What is uplifting music? The music that would inspire you to break into dancing or singing along. What are my favorites? I’ll tell you! Michael Buble (the classics), Barbara Streisand, and John Mayer (to name just a few.)
- Lastly, continue to work your mind, body and soul through constant improvement! Read, learn a new language or instrument, take dance or pilates classes, search out enlightened and uplifting people, cultures and sub-cultures. Be a joiner! Join a study group or attend church services and events. Get involved in your community! Just keep doing! This is not to say occupy every corner of your mind. No, of course you need alone time and time for reflection, but really, and truly people who busy themselves with productive and meaningful things are happier.
So there you go, top ten list number one! This, as I said before, is simply my opinion, but in my opinion it all works. I have to share with you that I am a very happy person and that happiness is not bought or borrowed, it is mine because of these things. So, stay active, stay busy and stay positive and full of faith and hope, and I think you’ll find you’ll also stay happy.